Marital distress is one of the most common and disturbing human problems
1. The problem mainly occurs when there are misunderstandings between husband and wife.
Whatever one wants to share with the other should be honest and very clear to the topic. To truly know another, we must be interested in knowing how they exactly feel and not be selfish. The problem occurs mostly when one says “you never understood me” If we listened as well as we spoke, really would make things better.
2. Another distress occurs when we are ungrateful.
E.g- Husband brings everything his wife asks for, just forgets one thing then the wife goes like “you never did anything for me” This is ungratefulness
E.g- Wife cooks delicious food every time, once the salt destructed the food, Husband yells and says “you never make good food”
These things Should be avoided. Always be thankful, keep smiling and avoid unnecessary yelling.
3. Not giving Wife her Haqq and not giving Husband his Haqq-
It is forbidden for a woman to refuse her Husband’s sexual desires. Whenever he desires sexual contact, she must not refuse him, unless she has a valid Islamic excuse.
Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
By the one in whose hands is my life, there is not a man who calls his wife for sexual intimacy and she refuses him except that Allah becomes angry with her until her husband is pleased with her. (Sahih Muslim, No. 1436)
4. Don’t delve into your spouse’s past-
Any problems related to past relationships will cause married life to be poisoned by jealousy, taunts, blaming, being suspicious etc. It only matters the most when the person hasn't changed, if he/she is changed then just LET IT GO! Its Allah who judges. It was a mistake, got to learn some new good things after such horrible experiences in the past. Forgive, be happy and pray for patience.
“Verily, the shaitaan flows through man the flowing of blood. And indeed, i feared that he would cast evil into your hearts (ie, evil suspicion).” Reported by Bukhari 3281
5. Cleanliness and Adornment is a MUST!
Cleanliness plays an important role in ones life, even after getting married one must maintain their hygiene and be neat and clean. Islam teaches us to maintain a high level of both inner purity and outward personal hygiene. A wife must never forget to be well dressed up when the husband is home. She should always take care of her hygiene, ie. Clipping nails, remove pubic hair, take proper shower, apply musk and wear neat elegant clothes. Same goes to the Husbands- women don’t like it when men look dirty, uncombed hair, hair under arms, smelly. Should be avoided!"Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean." [2: 22]
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